(#5) The Sacred Journey of Unbecoming: Remembering Your True Self & Reclaiming the Power Within
Part 5—Living in Your Essence: Reclaiming the Power Within
“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” — Paulo Coelho
The women I work with all use words like “freedom”, “ease”, and “flow” to describe what they want most. These words all share the common theme of spaciousness, and in spaciousness comes the possibility of living fully in essence. When the burdens that were never ours to carry are laid down, a profound transformation occurs. The body, heart, mind, and spirit all begin to resonate with clarity, vitality, and authenticity.
The Body: Restored Rhythm and Vitality
Physically, releasing old burdens allows the nervous system to settle into balance. Breath flows freely, tension dissolves, and energy begins to circulate without obstruction. The body no longer functions under chronic stress or hypervigilance, allowing immune, digestive, and hormonal systems to regulate more naturally. Movement becomes fluid and intuitive rather than enforced or obligatory. Living in essence means inhabiting a body that feels alive, responsive, and aligned with inner guidance.
The Heart: Authentic Connection
Emotionally, the heart experiences liberation. Guilt, resentment, and suppressed grief are replaced with clarity, compassion, and openness. Relationships transform: giving is no longer sacrificial, but generous and reciprocal. The heart’s intelligence—its ability to discern, love, and empathize—reawakens, creating space for deeper connection with oneself and others. Joy, long buried under duty and expectation, can now emerge as a natural expression of being.
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The Mind: Centered Clarity
Mentally, clarity replaces the fog of over-responsibility. The inner critic softens, allowing for balanced self-reflection rather than harsh self-judgment. Decision-making becomes intuitive, grounded in essence rather than conditioned expectation. The mind is freed to imagine, create, and focus without the weight of inherited obligations clouding judgment. This cognitive liberation is the soil from which authentic living grows.
The Spirit: Radiant Presence
Spiritually, essence emerges as the guiding force. The inner voice, once muted, now speaks with clarity and authority. Creativity, intuition, and alignment with purpose flourish. Living in essence is not an external achievement but a continuous practice of attunement: noticing where life aligns with truth, honoring impulses, and engaging with the world from a place of presence. Choices flow from self-knowledge rather than societal expectation.
As one woman reclaims her essence, the impact ripples outward. Unburdened, she influences her surroundings not by obligation, but by the authenticity and vitality she emanates. Living in essence is thus both personal liberation and collective restoration, helping to shift the cultural and energetic field for other women and future generations.
An Invitation
To integrate this stage of unbecoming, consider reflecting or journaling on questions such as:
What does living in my essence feel like in my body, heart, and mind?
How would my relationships shift if I approached them from a place of authentic presence rather than obligation?
In what ways can I nurture my intuition, creativity, and sense of purpose now that space has been made?
What small daily practices will help me maintain connection to my radiance?
The sacred journey of unbecoming is not about becoming someone new; it is about remembering, reclaiming, and embodying the fullness of who you have always been. It is about setting down what was never yours to carry, releasing what obscures, and allowing essence to guide the life you were meant to live.
The journey is ongoing, yet each step of release, awareness, and integration brings you closer to home: the home within yourself, alive with clarity, light, and truth.
This is the end of this series, but not the end of the story. Stay tuned for what’s coming next!
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